Bhogwe beach.

Artistic with foamy waves thundering onto the silvery white sand, wonderful view of Karli river’s bay , expressing utmost beauty, that’s Bhogwe Beach for you. It’s about 29 kilo meters from Kudal; it’s located on the western shores of Sindhudurg District in Maharashtra.

It took us almost 10 hours to reach Bhogwe beach from pune. It was mesmerizing experience of riding bike for so long as well as travelling through phondaghat.

I had fantastic time with myself along with purest oxygen and astonishing Nature beauty.  People with great photographic skills got magnificent shots on shore.  It is must visit place to get sunset.

Bhogwe Beach may not be as famous as the beaches of Goa and Kerela, but it remains one of those rare "yet-untouched" beauties of Creation.

Will post some snaps soon.

My First day at tom tom international.

woke up around 7am, weather was nice & cold, no sign of sunshine. all of sudden i realised no morning tea is available for me..... ohhhh gosh....just cant start my day without tea....when i was getting ready got sms which really changed my mood....that sms travelled more that 4000 air miles to make me smile .....and convey a clear message "u r not alone"..man for a second i thought instead of cating up tram go get a flight to India....next second i realised my professional responsibilities and them some how i prepared my breakfast and left for office. bone chilling wind was flowing and was not at all comfortable to move in 1-3* Cel from 25* cel.  catching up tram wasn't much difficult. European girls were around us....with too many cloths on them they don't look good....do they???...nahhhhh...but every single girl/women i observed/stared was having make up...but they were looking completely plastic beauty.


As soon as we reached office we got our breakfast.....after formal introduction to team we were divided and sprinted to different meeting rooms....user story, scrum,  sprint all terminologies looked really good in books of agile practises but when u ask to follow that it takes juice out of you to met up expectation. people and culture is really cool and open. around 35 different nationalities are working under one roof. my manager is American, teach lead is Dutch and one African guy would be reporting to me........its fun to interact with all of them together..... Canteen is even better too many options in ham, pork, fish except anything in veggies.. my location is on 7th floor ....view is awesome from that......let me check if i can get photos out of here........a lot more to share....

Being in love….

Is there any one thing more examined in the human psyche than the emotion of love? Some people are lucky in love: They find the perfect fit in a partner and tend the garden of romance for decades.

 

Others strike out again and again in affairs of the heart. We obsess over love and we endure bad loves, relationships that damage our egos and leave our self esteem cracked and bleeding. Nevertheless, we continue to seek love despite any emotional scarring.

 

As anthropologists study the evolutionary and familial benefits of falling in love, scientists investigate how love is rooted in the physiology of the body. That’s why we have welcomed the word chemistry into our lexicon of love it implies that a mysterious but wonderful reaction is happening within us.

 

When we speak of love in terms of chemistry, we describe passionate, distracting, even frightening encounters that can send us over the moon. What can we make of love that ignites instantly? Can we trust our immediate reactions to another person?

Are our bodies equipped at a physical level to help us sort through and analyze our relationships? Should we believe in what Jung called “the ultimate honesty of the body”?

 

When I and somebody met with some pure, divine purpose, some unknown force sparked a mutual interest in a matter of minutes. Moreover, the conversation might not have occurred, and somebody would have walked onto the next exhibit alone, her life unchanged.

 

At last just hoping those things will fall in place as with time and just making sure I will not miss out on any opportunity come my way.

Freezing Your Butt Off...

Jay Leno went into the audience to find the most embarrassing first date that a woman ever had.

The winner described her worst first date experience. There was absolutely no question as to why her tale took the prize!

She said it was midwinter...snowing and quite cold...and the guy had taken her skiing in the mountains outside Salt Lake City , Utah. It was a day trip (no overnight). They were strangers, after all, and truly had never met before.

The outing was fun but relatively uneventful until they were headed home late that afternoon.

They were driving back down the mountain, when she gradually began to realize that she should not have had that extra latte.

They were about an hour away from anywhere with a rest room and in the middle of nowhere!

Her companion suggested she try to hold it, which she did for a while.

Unfortunately, because of the heavy snow and slow going, there came a point where she told him that he had better stop and let her go beside the road, or it would be the front seat of his car. They stopped and she quickly crawled out beside the car, yanked her pants down and started.

In the deep snow she didn't have very good footing, so she let her butt rest against the rear fender to steady herself.

Her companion stood on the side of the car watching for traffic and indeed was a real gentleman and refrained from peeking. All she could think about was the relief she felt despite the rather embarrassing nature of the situation. Upon finishing however, she soon became aware of another sensation.

As she bent to pull up her pants, the young lady discovered her buttocks were firmly glued against the car's fender.

Thoughts of tongues frozen to poles immediately came to mind as she attempted to disengage her flesh from the icy metal. It was quickly apparent that she had a brand new problem due to the extreme cold.

Horrified by her plight and yet aware of the humor of the moment, she answered her date's, concerns about "what is taking so long" with a reply that indeed, she was "freezing her butt off" and in need of some assistance!

He came around the car as she tried to cover herself with her sweater and then, as she looked imploringly into his eyes, he burst out laughing. She too, got the giggles and when they finally managed to compose themselves, they assessed her dilemma.

Obviously, as hysterical as the situation was, they also were faced with a real problem. Both agreed it would take something hot to free her chilly cheeks from the grip of the icy metal!

Thinking about what had gotten her into the predicament in the first place, both quickly realized that there was only one way to get her free.

So, as she looked the other way, her first-time date proceeded to unzip his pants and pee her butt off the fender. As the audience screamed in laughter, she took the Tonight Show prize hands down. Or perhaps that should be "pants down". And you thought your first date was embarrassing!

Jay Leno's comment, "This gives a whole new meaning to being pissed off."

Oh, and how did the first date turn out? He became her husband and was sitting next to her on the Tonight Show.

Expectations

"I do my thing, and you do your thing. I am not in this world to live up to your expectations, and you are not in this world to live up to mine. You are you, and I am I, and if by chance we find each other, it's beautiful." said by Frederick E. Perl.

I received a lecture on this from friend of mine, 'this is not a perfect world and we don't live with perfect people, that expectations are a way of being, and that you can't help expecting things from people'.

Keeping that in mind, I set out to see if there are any real expectations, necessary ones that cannot be questioned. My friend K had sent me a link on Jean Leidloff's book Continuum Concept. And I found my answer there. "Expectation... is founded as deeply in man as his very design. His lungs not only have, but can be said to be, an expectation of air, his eyes are an expectation of light..."

Beautifully said, and I wholeheartedly agree. Expectation is a dictator. And it makes you run your life with an iron hand. 'I wanted', 'I thought', 'why didn't you', 'how could you' etc. These are the ones that get expressed. But there are those, that do far more harm, that never get spoken of. They dwell in our mind – the shhh...Silent expectations. Ideas of right and wrong that get built up over the years and you don't even realize that it's there, infesting your thoughts.

Was chatting with a friend on why he kept turning down all the marriage proposals that came to him. He said that none of them were his type. Expectations. He had a pre-set frame of reference, and whoever the girl it was that he would marry had to fit into it. The reason why no one ever did. No one ever could. It was too strict and definite an expectation, not allowing him to see what the girl had, but what she should have. So it was about looking for what's missing instead of what's there. And that's just the tip of the expectation iceberg. Say he finds 'the girl', he would have then have silent expectations from his marriage, and if it turned out different from the frame in his head, it would lead to disappointment.

Expectation arises from two things. Firstly from the past, that is to say, 'something happened then, and now it shouldn't, or should'. Like you best friend let you down, and now you expect an insane amount of commitment from every friend you make. Or you stop being friends with them. Secondly, from the future, from already having lived your life in your head, that 'this is the way things ought to be'. Like you make a new friend, imagine your life, happy forever, doing everything together, a friend who'd die for you, and then the next day, you ask him out for a movie, and he says he's busy and you feel extremely cheated and hurt.

For the fortunate beings who live in the present, in the now, there are no expectations, except the vital ones that keep them alive and going, and are immediate to the task at hand. And those are indeed the greatest ones.

The Dating Game

Couple of months ago, I was at a get together at a friend's place, and we suddenly realized that four out of five of us were single. The discussion went on to why that was so and ended with the familiar rant – 'but where are the eligible single people!' To which we realized that all of us had friends, apart from this gang, who were single and who we feel are wonderful and so dateable.

 M said it’s our attitude that keeping us single. We are really not ready to give up ourselves to see somebody. We want everything on our terms without any compromise.  I never felt need of having somebody. Even my priorities were different at that time and even now. K said “someone is always around the corner...but we never turn”. S said its wavelength mismatch problem.

 They studied speed dating and found that decisions were made within the first 3 seconds, and issues such as religion, previous marriages, and smoking habits were found to play much less of a role than expected.(Thanks to Google)

 But whether it family arranged dates, regular dates, blind dates, group dates, holidates (people in long distance relationships who meet on vacations) or speed dates, we pass our verdict in the first three seconds. Everything after that is just validating what we already know and feel. But as in all games, there's no guaranteed win. You have to lose some to win some.

 

 

Corinthians club

The occasion was Mindtree celebrating its 10th anniversary and the bash was planned at Corinthians club. I was much exited since this was the first time going in Corinthians.

Left home around 4:30pm and reached thr almost at 5:30pm. No need to mention i missed couple of divergence in between when we differed from main road and had to bear taunting till we reached destination.

 

As we entered we saw big stage is set for the performance and few snacks stalls, we directly went into game room. Thought I was not lucky enough to grab price, most of my friends got different gifts.  Best part of evening was no lectures, no speeches from senior management and stakeholders. Ashok soota current Chairman & Managing Director asked everybody to lift thr hands and then clap for 10th year of mindtree.

 

Rehamina musical concert set tone of evening. Young dedicated professional team started of with famous song from movie rang de basanti “Loose control”. They mixed latest composition with older one. This event made us to shake our legs...…jasraj and swarali were too good on vocals.  In between few professionals performed salsa….it was mind blowing too.

 

Food was as usual exotic. Grilled chicken in green gravy and variety of salads …yummy…Missed out on deserts but it doesn’t matter. At the end I left Corinthians with some best of memories.

End of the Year Review

I know that I tell you to look forward. To dream big and to pursue your biggest life. And these are important. Sometimes, however, we need to look back. To learn the lessons of our past. To examine how we performed professionally and as human beings. Your days, weeks and months are your life in miniature. How you showed up this year is how you are showing up in life. (The biggest disappointment is to get to the end of our days and realize that we didn't show up fully in our lives.)

So, this holiday season, I respectfully suggest that you take the time to review 2009. Find a sacred space, grab your journal and write down your answers to the following questions. First, write the story of the year. Describe how 2009 went for you in as much detail as possible. Open your journal and describe the year that just happened. What were your successes? Your disappointments? What experiences were breathtakingly great? Try to recall each month or season and describe all aspects of your life. Your career, your finances, your relationships, your health, your contribution. Yes, I know that this will take some time. However, leadership is about doing the right things not the easy things.

Second, look at your goal sheets, schedule and journal from the year. How did you do on your goals? Give yourself a mark for each of your goals. If you committed to running a faster 10k and you did then give yourself a ten out of ten. If you aimed to read 50 books and only read 40 then give yourself and 8 out of 10. After reviewing your performance (big idea: all great companies and leaders look at their past performance) look for patterns. Did you excel and business but let your health slide? Did you let disappointments get in the way? Did you make the necessary mid-course corrections when circumstances changed? Reflect on your decisions. How did you perform as a decision maker? Did later events confirm your assumptions? Did you act too quickly or not quickly enough?

Finally, write out the lessons of the year. It could be as simple as "I learned to rest more between workouts." Or, "When I take the time to listen to my friends our relationship gets better." Or, "By creating a financial plan I made my life much less stressful."

The best teacher is a teacher called life. And when you reflect on the past you are capturing the valuable lessons that your life has to offer.